Well, it was Easter
Apr. 5th, 2015 09:45 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
monkey5sI hope everyone who celebrates it had a good one.
When I talked to my bro on the phone Friday, he sounded great. He was clearly in a good mood (rare for him), and the initial visit of the home health nurse went very well. They put him on the schedule to have his legs re-wrapped once daily, and she set up the physical therapy person to visit him Monday. He was remarking how great it was that he could wheel the wheelchair straight up to the kitchen table and be there as an active participant in the nurse's filling out of forms. I told him I was so pleased, because this meant I would get to have a dinner Sunday where the entire family was actually around the table (instead of him sitting in his recliner in the living room calling to have things brought to him while the rest of us ate together).
I didn't call him yesterday, since I was actually going to be visiting today.
When I got there this afternoon, he was asleep in bed. He had gotten up when they came to do his legs, but went right back to bed. S-i-l woke him when dinner was ready, but when he got to the table, he said he felt ill and wasn't going to eat. He finally got a bottle of water out of the fridge, then went into the living room and sat in his recliner.
After the rest of us ate, I went in to see if I could at least talk to him. And no surprise, he is back to doing the things that have made him so sick in the past- not taking his meds (not since Friday), refusing to eat (nothing yesterday or today), not doing his PT exercises. And he's saying it's no use, he tried but insurance kicked him out of the place he was getting so much help. So he was giving up. I gave it a shot, reminded him that just because it was harder, it did not mean he couldn't manage to do it himself, anyway. After all, if he didn't like how things were going, it was up to him to change them. But he's right back in the same old rut (direct quote from him). And I'm not a mental health professional. I'm also tired.
So I will try calling tomorrow to see how things went with PT, but I am not holding out much hope. After all, I've got plenty of my own problems.
When I talked to my bro on the phone Friday, he sounded great. He was clearly in a good mood (rare for him), and the initial visit of the home health nurse went very well. They put him on the schedule to have his legs re-wrapped once daily, and she set up the physical therapy person to visit him Monday. He was remarking how great it was that he could wheel the wheelchair straight up to the kitchen table and be there as an active participant in the nurse's filling out of forms. I told him I was so pleased, because this meant I would get to have a dinner Sunday where the entire family was actually around the table (instead of him sitting in his recliner in the living room calling to have things brought to him while the rest of us ate together).
I didn't call him yesterday, since I was actually going to be visiting today.
When I got there this afternoon, he was asleep in bed. He had gotten up when they came to do his legs, but went right back to bed. S-i-l woke him when dinner was ready, but when he got to the table, he said he felt ill and wasn't going to eat. He finally got a bottle of water out of the fridge, then went into the living room and sat in his recliner.
After the rest of us ate, I went in to see if I could at least talk to him. And no surprise, he is back to doing the things that have made him so sick in the past- not taking his meds (not since Friday), refusing to eat (nothing yesterday or today), not doing his PT exercises. And he's saying it's no use, he tried but insurance kicked him out of the place he was getting so much help. So he was giving up. I gave it a shot, reminded him that just because it was harder, it did not mean he couldn't manage to do it himself, anyway. After all, if he didn't like how things were going, it was up to him to change them. But he's right back in the same old rut (direct quote from him). And I'm not a mental health professional. I'm also tired.
So I will try calling tomorrow to see how things went with PT, but I am not holding out much hope. After all, I've got plenty of my own problems.
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Date: 2015-04-06 01:39 pm (UTC)